Controlling Anxious Thoughts

A lot of anxiety is caused by feeling like you have no control over something. This may be especially true for some people currently as we deal with something that is unknown and we do not know what to expect. BUT, there is always something we can control and focusing on that may alleviate some anxiety. It may be particularly helpful to write down your specific worries and then a list of what you can control. Here is an example:

"I am worried about my mom who is in a nursing home and I cannot visit her" What can I control?

1. I can call her every day to check in.
2. I can send her pictures of her grandchildren and have them FaceTime with her.
3. I can check in with nurses regularly to see how she is feeling. 
4. I can order her a few nice things to keep her occupied and have them delivered to her. 

Once you have written down everything you can control, it is time to let go of the anxiety regarding the situation. It will not change the situation but only make you feel worse while you are coping with it. 

Lastly, put aside all of your "what ifs". If something goes wrong, you will reassess your options and handle it then. Worrying about or waiting for something bad to happen is unhelpful and will only contribute to your anxiety. 

P.S. This works for kids and teenagers too!

~Dr. Sam